Wednesday, April 14, 2010

L -- Love

"We are young. Heartache to heartache we stand... No promises no demands... Love is a battlefield." ~ Pat Benatar

I wasn't sure if I should post about love since in reality, I've never truly been "in love" with anyone. Honestly, I don't even know what it feels like to be in love. Times in the past, I thought I was in love, but it was all premature and false.

A girl I work with was talking about something she learned in a class. We are all raised believing that God puts one person on this earth for everyone. Our soul mate. In the class they talked about how in reality, some people never find that one person. If you look at the population, there's like 7 times more women on the planet than men. Anyone can see that the numbers just don't work out. Philosophically, we should all believe that there is "the one" out there somewhere and we will eventually find them. Do you believe that?

I'm not sure what I believe anymore. I've been scorned by men I thought I loved. Most of the people in my family were married by age 20. I'm an extreme exception. I'll be 25 next week and haven't even really had a serious relationship. I "dated" a guy in high school for around 2 years, but that's the closest I got to any kind of length. Most guys I talk to don't want anything serious. They want all of the benefits of a relationship without being officially "in a relationship." It never fails.

They say love finds you at the most random time... on some idle Tuesday while you are out grocery shopping, or when you aren't even looking for it. I believe that one day I will find the one I love. I've got faith in that.

Love is just so complex, yet so simple at the same time.

Love comes in may forms. Love for your parents and family is felt from the moment you're born. Love of a pet. Love of friends. Love of some object. Love for our Lord and Savior. Love of food. I could go on and on about things humans can "love."

I can't wait to feel the love of a man. I can't wait to feel the way it is to love a man in return. It's a beautiful thing. It's a complex thing. It's something that makes many people look forward to the future. :)


Jackee said...

When I was a teenager, I had an adult I really looked up to tell me that I would just "know" when I fell in love with the right one. I never believed her because if that were true, why is divorce rate so high? But several years later when my relationship with my now husband became serious enough to think about marriage I was surprised that it DID feel that way. I knew. Then I wanted to run away and not settle down but I knew that where things were going was right and if I hid from it, I would regret it forever. I don't believe there is only one right person for someone, but I believe God will put the best options in front of us if we (and they) watch for them.

So there are my two cents--I couldn't deny my husband was the right one then and I can't deny it now. And fortunately he felt the same way or my theory would be shot! LOL!

...And never underestimate the great love of food. :o)

Lisa said...

Being in love is really something wonderful for you to look forward to. You've been smart to wait for the right one. He'll come along - just be patient.

Love the song you posted at the top of the page!

Wanda said...

Interesting post. I too once believe in that one soul mate thing but I've been rethinking that idea lately. But I have been in love before and it's great :)

Ellie said...

You are smart, to wait; Love is
worth waiting for! It is like a diamond with so many facets, the real kind is dazzling n' can cut through glass.
You will find it, be
patient and keep living!

Talli Roland said...

I still don't know much about the ins and outs of love - and I'm married! Of course I love my husband, but how do you define it? Each relationship is different, and how each person loves is different too. You're right; it IS complex!

Shannon said...

I don't think there is just one person out there for you, I believe that whoever you do fall in love with and marry is the one and you strive with all your worth to make it work wonderfully...marriage is hard work, but so worth it...

Tracy said...

I do believe there is one perfect person out there for us ... but not that we'll always find that person. Kind of sad and depressive out look, I know.

Still, I'd rather be single and open to the right guy when he comes along than forcing myself to be with someone just so I can say I'm in love.

Sometimes its tough though, when you feel like everyone else has someone but you.

Stephen T. McCarthy said...

Thanks for the complimentary comment you left on my Blog yesterday. I appreciated that.

As far as L-O-V-E is concerned... well, I'm afraid there's not much I can offer on that. I'm 50, unmarried, and always have been. I kind of look at LOVE and think, well, it's a four-letter word, isn't it?

But the last thing I want to do is bum you out so I'll just say... Get some ice cream; it'll make you feel better. It's worked for me anyway - for 50 years.

~ "Lonesome Dogg" McMe

Mary McDonald said...

Hey Jessie, I know you'll find him and when you do, it'll make the wait worth it. :-)

ModernDayDrifter said...

Thanks for the comments! :)